My Unexpected Liberation
After doing a deep dive into my inner child work — really sitting with her, hearing her, holding her — something unexpected happened.
I met myself.
Not the fractured parts, not the wounded little one.
But the woman. The full-bodied, grown-ass version of me.
And it didn’t come with fireworks or some wild revelation. It came through my body — the quiet but undeniable sensation of embodiment. Of being in my life, in my flesh, as a woman.
And with that... something shifted.
The longing I’ve felt for intimacy — the craving, the ache — it finally made sense. And for the first time, I didn’t feel incapable. I didn’t feel stuck or paralyzed. It was like a veil lifted. And beneath it was desire. My desire.
Without guilt.
Without shame.
With a full-body, soul-deep fuck yes.
And here’s the kicker:
I'm in middle age, and yet my libido feels more alive than it ever has. Not performative. Not driven by external validation. But real. Rooted. Mine.
It took me a while to fully understand what was happening — and more importantly, why. After all, my intention with inner child work and self-inquiry had absolutely nothing to do with my libido… so you can imagine my surprise when that part of me suddenly woke up.
But as I sat with the shift, I started to see the connection. Intimacy in parenting, inner trust, and the release of shame — they’re all deeply interwoven. These pieces shape so much of how we move through the world, often without us even realizing it.
As we begin to heal, we uncover the roots of our protection — the reasons we shut down, hide, or disconnect. And once those defenses are felt and acknowledged, they begin to dissolve. What’s left is the truth of who we are, not the adaptations we’ve relied on to survive.
And so this is the gift of going deep. If we remain open and committed to remembering our wholeness, the impact of the life we can live is expansive and life-shifting.
I leave you with some questions to consider:
What unexpected parts of you might come alive when you begin to truly heal?
What would it mean to meet yourself fully — not as who you've had to be, but who you truly are?
Remember, we aren’t meant to do this work alone. I’m here for support.